This blog is written by considering recent events and practical things which are happening. I just hope that this will change at least few.
I read somewhere that, "Don't tell me how to dress!! Tell them not to rape." I really have few doubts here. Take the case of Delhi, recent village rape case or take technology case (You'll read it soon) and what you find common is this, "They never raped a girl looking at what they wore", and if you really take a deep look, then you find that they were raped in the presence of people they knew. Something hit you..??
Ask yourself.. When will you hurt someone or do anything bad to someone..?.. It's only when that someone has done the same. And if you search for reasons behind these cases, then you'll find a different story with each and every one of it. Let me tell you the recent one which happened in Bangalore outskirts.
A boy and girl met on Facebook and they became friends. As per police records, they were known to each other and during a weekend, the boy calls the girl around 3am and she leaves with him and his driver and she was raped. Now, what you have to observe is: firstly, they are known to each other and secondly, the girl went when she was called at 3am. At this point, if I ask you to say something then being a girl you might say that, "She trusted him and she has right as per law" and if you are a boy then you'll say, "Was she mad?." Feel any difference.? I'm not asking about the rights and not even interested in knowing them but what one has to understand is the decision they are making and it applies to both boys and girls.
Let me tell you one more thing. Technology hasn't just reduced the time of work that has to be done but it has also altered the life style. For example, (being more practical) earlier porn CD's were sold but now, "Half of the movie was produced and directed by themselves (Thanks to Skype and GMail in this context) and we call the second half as RAPE." (This is in case of educated one's)
Let me tell you one more interesting thing. Those all who has done the first half are that aware: they purposefully delete all their chats and seriously it's shocking that they started this before few years and now lawyers are using those chats to get divorce for those who wish to and after that they act as if they have done nothing and there is one story that I came across during Delhi rape case. This letter was written by a girl to the other.
Whole nation was on its feet. Some were lighting candles and some were busy in their routine work, few were shouting without a cause but only some stood strong with a cause and they are the one's who tasted the sweetness of lathi. This is taken from Hyderabad city.
It's a huge crowd and it was around 7 PM. Some stood with candles in their hands and some were protesting against what happened in Delhi. Girl A was standing before Girl B. Girl A wore western type of dress and the other was traditional. They exchanged information about each other and became friends. From then on they used to meet now and then. Girl A was rich while the other was from middle class who lives in a hostel. One day Girl A asks Girl B to join a party and when Girl B reaches there, she notices that she wasn't habituated to that environment and she departs and from then on Girl B thinks to stay away from her.
One day, a friend of Girl B meets with an accident and being poor, she tries to call Girl A but she won't get any response. To save her friend, she thinks to visit Girl A's house directly and when she reaches there, she'll find Girl A with few boys at her house and when she questions about this, Girl A replies, "This is all common and you have to move on." And now, the Girl B asks, "Does she have the right to light the candle or fight for her right..?"
Now you may say that it is just a narrated story or you might say that it's only one among millions and I too can say that rapes are also one in millions. Right is right to you and also me.
What we have to observe is this. The world is full of good, bad and ugly. If you choose good, then worst thing that might happen is you become bad, if you choose bad then you may become ugly and if you choose ugly then you are done. It applies to each and everyone of us.
There are different ways to look at a point. Some says that having love on others while you are in a relationship is fair while some says it's not. Some argue that we have only one life so we should do what we like to and love or express to whom we wish and same applies to his/her partner. But say that, only one is wishing to leave while the other wanna stay. Then..?? What if you have lacked the ability to visualize or feel your partner's love.? And at that time, if you say to move on since you got the one, then what about the other.? The other might have put his / her entire life to love you and to be with you but you ignored and again you might have your own reasons and the reason that's left is the SATISFACTION but not LOVE. Then whose mistake is this.? The loved one or the one who chose one's need.? Then comes the real part. Good leave them as their wish and move on. Bad is little bit egoistic but leaves in the end but the ugly is purely egoistic and he/she either kills or kills himself/herself. And again the ugly can behave in different ways while the motive remains the same. Every relation starts unexpectedly but ends tragically and it's just because one believes the other and other doesn't.
Earlier I used to think that meaning of soul mate is just unique but now it's like Wi-Fi. The more you get closer, the more strong signals you receive and if you go apart you lose the connection and strange thing is, password is shared. At this point host acts as TDMA.
I don't think Government has any role in this. It is obvious that they can't provide security for each and every square meter and killing just increases the number of crimes with "NEW TECHNOLOGIES". Killing is never a solution but killing the bad and the ugly in you is the only solution. (Applies to both boys and girls)
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Take a reading on rapes written and investigated by The Hindu & Times of India.
http://www.thehindu.com/data/the-many-shades-of-rape-cases-in-delhi/article6261042.ece?utm_source=MostPopular&utm_medium=Data&utm_campaign=WidgetPromo
