I loved a girl. She wasn't my caste or religion nor even speaks my language. I thought our love will last long but she came to know that I'm not perfect to her while I tried to convince her that I'll change the way she needs. I loved her even more and I barely remember how I behaved with my family. As the girl made her mind clear, I wasn't able to. I was involved and habituated to the climate.
I always had relationship with God. Whenever I criticize Him, He'll come up with an idea where He proves that He exists. And I counter attack Him and He does the same. When I broke up, I asked why? And He didn't answer. I lost hope in Him and days passed. I almost became materialistic (read my previous posts and you'll get that). Then He made his move. He did something that made my family drown. He bonded a relationship to my sister and a guy of not my caste and religion.
My family broke. Not because they got married but she broke something called "TRUST". It's not so strange to see that now-a-days trust has become logical but not magical. Now I come to the point that I actually want to make.
People call this generation as modern, civilized, pragmatic and the list continues. Many of my age (mine is 24) and less thinks that their families are against them when they come to love. When someone gets over 18, they are free to choose their life. I don't understand why they pin point parents as culprits when they say teenage love. If you are in love and over 18 then just go to it and do whatever you want with your boy or girlfriend. Have sex and children and believe me, your children will follow your footsteps and when they do the same as you did, sit in a dark room and think what the hell have you done.
I don't understand the meaning of father's and mother's day too. People say that their father is their super-hero and their mother as if she is the mother earth. Then I ask, how dare you leave them without informing where you are leaving. If your 1-2 months or 1-2 years of love weigh a ton then theirs weigh billion tons. If your love makes you dare to step out and argue with them, what should their love do? - They should have killed you. (Believe me, love has the power to kill)
Now ask me, loving a girl or a boy of other caste or religion is crime? Certainly not. Then why are your parents against it? Why can't they understand? I'll tell you why they can't. They were born in a society where four people knew them. They born in a society where they are charged in-front of a village if their family members get engaged with inter-caste guy or girl. They are born in a society where they have to keep their head down if their children left home without informing. And they are in a society where they still believe that their children love them no matter what their age is.
Whatever you read above, my family faced those. Only I and my family know how it feels and how hard it is for me and them when someone left breaking one's heart and trust.
People say, fuck the world. Just live your life. Do you know what someone says to them if you leave your home? - They abuse your parents since they can't get hold of the family and the mark that you left on them will never fade no matter how big the tsunami is. I have seen parents killing themselves and I have seen my parents crying whole day.
People say that their parents ask them to marry and sleep with a guy or a girl whom they never came across. Now ask your parents how they got married and weren't they happy. If they are happy then you too will. I ask, do you come across of your so called girl/boyfriend when you are born? You met as strangers and then got into a relationship right? Then why can't that same-thing happen after marriage? When you are allowed to break a relationship and patch with other, you too have convenience to break your marriage and patch with other. What guarantee can you provide to your parents that your partner won't leave you in the sea? Of course the same thing might miss fire in their case but in that case you'll have a chance to come back to your family and if you choose your way then it is highway.
I sincerely request everyone (those all who are reading) to please stop criticizing your parents in name of love. They don't deserve to stand in-front of everyone and keep their head down. And if they keep their head down for you, they are dead and worst thing that happened to them is "Your birth".
Love is never a crime. But the approach you choose defines the result. I kept on thinking why God chose my sister leaving me behind. But after a year, He made me know what actual love is but I still fight with Him because I have my questions unanswered.
Now ask me, loving a girl or a boy of other caste or religion is crime? Certainly not. Then why are your parents against it? Why can't they understand? I'll tell you why they can't. They were born in a society where four people knew them. They born in a society where they are charged in-front of a village if their family members get engaged with inter-caste guy or girl. They are born in a society where they have to keep their head down if their children left home without informing. And they are in a society where they still believe that their children love them no matter what their age is.
Whatever you read above, my family faced those. Only I and my family know how it feels and how hard it is for me and them when someone left breaking one's heart and trust.
People say, fuck the world. Just live your life. Do you know what someone says to them if you leave your home? - They abuse your parents since they can't get hold of the family and the mark that you left on them will never fade no matter how big the tsunami is. I have seen parents killing themselves and I have seen my parents crying whole day.
People say that their parents ask them to marry and sleep with a guy or a girl whom they never came across. Now ask your parents how they got married and weren't they happy. If they are happy then you too will. I ask, do you come across of your so called girl/boyfriend when you are born? You met as strangers and then got into a relationship right? Then why can't that same-thing happen after marriage? When you are allowed to break a relationship and patch with other, you too have convenience to break your marriage and patch with other. What guarantee can you provide to your parents that your partner won't leave you in the sea? Of course the same thing might miss fire in their case but in that case you'll have a chance to come back to your family and if you choose your way then it is highway.
I sincerely request everyone (those all who are reading) to please stop criticizing your parents in name of love. They don't deserve to stand in-front of everyone and keep their head down. And if they keep their head down for you, they are dead and worst thing that happened to them is "Your birth".
Love is never a crime. But the approach you choose defines the result. I kept on thinking why God chose my sister leaving me behind. But after a year, He made me know what actual love is but I still fight with Him because I have my questions unanswered.
I'm sorry you and your family had to go through all that. You deserve better.
ReplyDeleteI've always trusted people way too easily. Maybe that's not such a bad thing, I don't know. But it definitely has its downsides, and it takes a while to earn that trust back if you lose it. That goes for most people - not just me. I wish people would be more careful with it. I love what you said about children following their parents' footsteps. That's a great way to put it. And yes, everyone calls their parents heroes, yet they give them very little respect.
Parents deserve more respect. Kids should know when to listen to them, should try to understand where they're coming from. At the same time, parents aren't perfect either. I'm not exactly a supporter for blind marriages, but I can appreciate the effort that I'm sure goes into finding someone for your kid - and I think it's good to give that person a chance.